Improving Your People Skills Using The 5 A's to Mastering Charm

What Are People Skills?

People skills are your ability to accept, appreciate, and admire others on a personal or professional level. Good people skills also extend to your ability to listen and empathize with others, as well as work towards common goals with others.

How To Improve People Skills By Mastering Charm

There are what I like to call, the 5 A’s to mastering charm. Learning these can empower you with the ability to charm anyone you meet.

1) Acceptance

The greatest gift you can give other people is the attitude of “unconditional positive regard.” That is, you accept them in their entirety, without limitation. The best way to express complete acceptance is simple.

You smile!

When you smile with happiness at seeing people, their self-esteem jumps automatically. They feel important and valuable and they like the person who is making them feel this way.

2) Appreciation

You can show your appreciation by saying “thank you” on every occasion, for any large or small reason. You make a habit of thanking everyone in your world from everything they do.

Thank your secretary for her work. Thank your spouse for his help. Thank your children for anything they do that you appreciate. Whenever you smile or say thank you to another person, not only does that person’s self-esteem and feeling of importance jump, but so does yours.

You actually like yourself more every time you do or say anything that causes other people to like themselves more. And the more you like yourself, the more you will genuinely like and care about others and the less concerned you will be about whether you are making a good impression, making your charm even more natural.

3) Approval

All humans have a deep subconscious need for approval.

For this reason, giving approval or praise to others often will make them feel wonderful about themselves, and they will find you to be more interesting, perceptive, highly likable, and extremely charming.

4) Admiration

When you give people a genuine, sincere compliment about a trait, possession, or accomplishment, they automatically feel better about themselves.

They feel acknowledged and recognized. They feel valuable and important. Compliment a person on an article of clothing, on a trait like punctuality or persistence, or on an award they’ve won.

Compliment for small things as well as large.

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5) Attention

Attention is perhaps the most important quality of charm. It is the most powerful behavior for building rapport and is the key to instant charm.

When you pay close attention to other people, the more valuable and important they will feel they are.

If someone wants to talk to you, immediately discontinue all other activities and give that person your entire attention. Listen as if you are transfixed by what they are saying and then take a moment to pause before replying, rather than jumping in as soon as they take a breath. This shows that you actually heard the person, not only what they said but what they meant.

If you practice the 5 A’s you will be a more charming person and improve your people skills almost immediately.  See you at the Top!